A transgender man who gave birth to a baby boy admits he wouldn’t want to go through a pregnancy again due to all the hate he received from strangers.
A transgender man from Texas was utterly surprised to find out that he was pregnant. 28-year-old Wyley Simpson began transitioning from female to male when he was 21. He underwent regular testosterone therapy and treatments, as a result of which he stopped having his periods. Doctors told him he could never get pregnant again as he was no longer menstruating. However, February 2018 brought shocking news for Wyley and his 28-year-old fiancé Stephen Gaeth. Despite what the doctors had told him, Wyley was pregnant and the couple had a baby on the way.
Understandably, Wyley and Stephen had a hard time coming to terms with the pregnancy. However, they overcame their initial state of confusion and decided to try their hand at parenthood. Wyley carried their baby for the duration of the pregnancy, all the while bearing with abuse and judgment from strangers who considered the sight of a pregnant man as an abomination of nature. It all turned out to be worth it when he gave birth to a beautiful 7lb 5oz baby boy in September 2018, via emergency C-section. Though he loves his son to the moon and back, Wyley says he wouldn’t want to get pregnant again.
According to Daily Mail, Wyley hasn’t had gender reassignment surgery yet and hence still has a vagina and female reproductive organs. He and his fiancé Stephen recently celebrated their son reaching his six-month mark, and have opened up about what pregnancy and parenthood have been like for them. Wyley admits that though it was worth it, the pregnancy was an emotionally draining time for him due to the hateful manner in which strangers treated him. “It’s not every day that someone sees a pregnant man walking down the road, so we received a fair amount of abuse,” he said.
“I would be told that I’ll never be a man, ‘men don’t carry babies’ and everyone called me ‘it’,” he revealed. Wyley cannot breastfeed his baby since he had already gotten his female breasts surgically removed in 2013, a year after he began his testosterone therapy. Though he is yet to have his bottom surgery, having long identified as a male, he intends to fully transition into one in the future. Stephen says both of them never thought they would be parents today as they didn’t think there was any chance of Wyley getting pregnant due to his testosterone treatments.
Speaking to KENS5 in an interview after the birth of his baby, Wyley revealed he hadn’t had a menstrual cycle in years when he met Stephen. However, he knew something was up when a week of constantly feeling nauseous turned into full-blown morning sickness. “There’s no way possible, but I guess I could be. And of course, after four pregnancy tests, they were all positive,” he said. He admits he had to give it some serious thought to decide whether the pregnancy was something he wanted. Especially since he would have to stop his treatment if he decided to carry through with it.
“For me, personally, especially being on testosterone for six years, I would have to stop treatment if I wanted to continue the pregnancy. So that was my main scare, especially after being on it for so long. How it would affect me mentally, that was my main concern,” he said. Despite everything that was at stake, he decided he would have the baby since he had faith in his relationship with Stephen and had always dreamt of having a child someday. “I’ve always wanted to be a father. And even though it happened this way and wasn’t planned, I was like, ‘let’s do it’,” he said.
As for his pregnancy journey, he said, “I was already worried as this was my first pregnancy. But I was also nervous because I had to deal with a lot of stigma behind me being a pregnant man. Alongside receiving rude comments from other people, the pregnancy took a lot for me emotionally. Having gone through the transitioning process since I was 21 years old, having a physical baby bump was something so feminine that it messed with my head. But it was all worth it to have Rowan and to become a father – I wouldn’t have changed a thing.”
Stephen, on the other hand, hadn’t planned on becoming a father so soon. Yet, he said he did everything he could to prepare for the baby’s arrival. “At first, I was very unsure. And I just, it felt right, and it felt better as we talked about it. We did a lot of talking, a lot of preparing. We went to prenatal yoga together, we watched a lot of videos online, and figured out our birth plan together,” he said. Lucky for them, their tiny tot Rowan Fox is an easygoing baby who likes to eat a lot. But Wyley explained that it took him a while to feel comfortable about becoming a father once the baby was born.
“Once my physical bump had disappeared and I was able to take my hormones again, I felt good about everything. Myself and Stephan suddenly turned into a gay couple with a baby, as opposed to me being a pregnant man. And Rowan is amazing, he made all of the mental and physical pain completely worth it. Now myself and Stephan are just reveling in fatherhood and can’t wait to continue our journey as a family,” he said. Be as it may, he says he won’t carry a child again. “I am looking to fully transition in the future, so the likelihood of having another child naturally is unlikely,” the new father said.
“It was a great feeling to be able to carry Rowan, feeling him kick and going to baby scans, but for me as a person, it isn’t something I can continue to do. I don’t see myself as any less of a man because of what happened, but I just do not identify in such a feminine way as to be pregnant – so it won’t be happening again. But I am glad that I got to go through something as amazing and natural as birthing my own child, it’s definitely made mine and Rowan’s bond so much closer,” Wyley added. Little Rowan and his two dads sure do make for an incredibly cute family, don’t they?
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