Experts claim that constantly yelling at your children can cause serious psychological damage, which will have life-long consequences.
Raising children can at times be difficult and challenging causing many parents to lose their cool. While children can get a little unruly, experts say that constantly yelling at them can cause a considerable amount of permanent damage.
Then again, nurturing a life was never a cakewalk. But a study published in The Journal of Child Development says that harsh verbal disciplinary actions such as yelling if done on a regular basis can have the same impact on your children as hitting does.
It was found that the children who were yelled at on a daily basis were more likely to develop feelings of anxiety and depression. Screaming at your kids only predisposes them to yell at others in the future. Moreover, when they grow up, they’ll also end up dealing with the constant apprehension of somebody yelling at them.
Experts also reveal that children should not be raised in constant fear of the parents. Parents are responsible for them and provide them with food, shelter, and love, and a child’s implicit fear of his/her parents can adversely affect their sense of security.
If parents keep yelling at their children, they feel that they are always under threat and danger. This constant feeling alters their neural pathways, as their flight, fight or freeze response are repeatedly called for, and as a result, it can get imprinted pretty soon on the children’s brain and affect their personality.
Yelling by itself is not healthy and produces the opposite effects — instead of getting the child’s attention, it makes the child not listen. This negativity also conveys the parent’s momentary weakness and tiredness.
If you want to change your child’s habits, yelling should be the last option you should go for because yelling can be cathartic for the parents, but not for the child.
A tolerant and calm demeanor can be one of the first steps to approach your child to let them know that they have done something wrong. One must take away the appearance of fear so that they can process their fault and learn from it instead of repeating the bad behavior.
This is where one realizes the role of negative and positive reinforcement. You can praise them when they exhibit the good behavior. If they show bad behavior, show them the consequences but without being too hostile and aggressive.
However, severe cases such as fights that involve hitting among siblings can warrant a yelling and you should yell because the shock of being yelled at can avoid future bad and dangerous behaviors.
Disclaimer : This article is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.